How the “Good Enough Principle” Can Make You A feel like a Better Person
The key to being happier is accepting who you are. We forget how to be happy with who we are at the core. We often tell ourselves things like, “Once I’ve accomplished this, life will be better. When I have accomplished this thing, once I’ve done this, life will be better.” We all have expectations about what we will get in the future. We generally don’t feel like we are sufficient enough within ourselves. It is often because we have not yet discovered who we are and what we want. It leads us to this place in life where we end up looking to other people for validation or approval. We want to be successful and achieve our goals. Sometimes we try too hard to get there and end up missing the joy of the journey.
A key to being happy is accepting that you are good enough, as you are.
We want approval, we want to be unconditionally accepted, and we want to be known for who we actually are. We all try in many ways to earn approval, to be accepted. Many people learn this in the family home. “If you tidy your room, I’ll be proud of you. If you get good grades in school, I’ll be happy with you.” It’s not that parents are bad; they’re doing the best they can while sometimes doing more damage than good. We are either enough or sufficient within ourselves, or we are not. We can believe that we’re never going to make the grade or see ourselves as flawed and imperfect. When we accept ourselves and our flaws, we will feel confident in our own abilities.
Many people feel that they have hit a glass ceiling in life. They feel that something is holding them back from getting what they want, but they don’t know what it is. There are no tangible or actual barriers preventing them from achieving their goals; it’s just a limiting belief. If you come from a place of feeling inadequate, you naturally strive for unconditional love or acceptance from others. You end up in jobs you hate or remain in jobs that you enjoy but are not passionate about.
But what if we’re not meant to be great?
What if our job is simply to be good enough?
We all have limiting beliefs that hold us back from realizing our full potential in life.. What happens when we fail or do not reach a benchmark of being good enough? This just validates the limiting belief that we have, which hurts. It hurst a lot sometimes. No one can add anything to you or take anything away from who you are at your core. To grow in maturity and character is to learn from your mistakes, and from the mistakes of others. There are lessons happening all around us everyday. We must be open to learning those lessons regardless who they were meant for. How freeing would it be to finally realize that you don’t have to work so hard to be great? How awesome would it be to finally realize that you are great? Just the way you are.
Good Enough: How to Overcome Fear of Failure and Perfectionism to Live Your Best Life
If you want to move forward with your life
It’s time to learn to accept being good enough.
Think about the opportunity this moment presents for you. What does it mean for you? Imagine a life without fear of others’ expectations. Instead, imagine having a foundation that means no one can take anything away from who you are. Even if you fail, even if you fall flat on your face, it doesn’t mean anything about who you are. It is important to develop some skills and improve in some areas, but you can be yourself while doing it. When we adopt this mindset, we are free to choose how we want to live. We don’t have to try to be good enough.
This is the Good Enough Principle
Identify the foundations on which you have historically based your life. Are you feeling stressed, anxious, or insecure? Or do you feel peaceful and at ease with yourself? This the difference between living with an awareness of who you really are. Instead of living with a fear of not measuring up.
If you believe that you must be perfect to be loved. You’re going to hold back. You’re going to undermine yourself. You might even sabotage your relationships.
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